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decisions, decisions.

lately i’ve been contemplating going back to work. or rather, staying home with leland. i’ve talked about it a lot with jay even though i think we already had a decision made up in the back of our minds. every time i hear about a girl my age getting their masters degree or finishing and graduating college, or starting a new career i start to doubt a little. i have always been independent. in fact, once upon a time i dreamed of traveling overseas to do missionary work on my own or be a journalist in some other state. so the thought of a stay at home mom doesn’t come natural to me but rather sounds like the opposite of independent. so when i got pregnant i was certain i’d work at least part time once leland came. however, things changed once he was born. my perspective on things changed just a bit when we all came home from the hospital and real life started.

the thing is, i dont have to get a full or part time job, i think i just wanted to more than anything. maybe i was afraid of not having enough money, or losing out on being social with a bunch of co-workers, or being recognized somehow. (which all of that in general is very, very meaningless when my worth is to be found in Christ anyway.) but now that i am home with leland, i can’t imagine working full time, only to scrape out a ton of that money for childcare, you know? i understand that a lot of moms have to work to make ends meet. i totally get that. but it’s not necessary for me to get a job and put leland in childcare all day just to have a few nicer things, pay off student loans quicker, and have some extra money for us. i am blessed to be able to stay at home with leland and i am thankful for that. so that is my decision. luckily, we are young enough where we have not gotten ourselves into a bunch of credit card debt or anything with some outrageous bills to pay. we are going to have to cut back on some things here and there, sacrifice some, but it is so worth it. thankfully, my photography is one way that i am making some money for our family. (i really pray that it continues to grow!)

i know that i can never get these years back. and the thing is, and something that i didn’t realize until now…is that staying at home really is a full time job. but so rewarding! i’m learning not to care so much when friends or others ask me if i’m going back to work and i say no, and they give me a funny look. this is who i am and i am trusting Him with the decisions i am making.

plus…who wouldn’t want to spend all day with this adorable little boy? :)

hope you had a blessed thanksgiving!

love,

arielle

  
Bridget

Wonderful! I think that it’s not that uncommon for moms to feel the way you do. We “plan” something in our heads and then when we see that precious child everything changes. I was thankful that when I had Hannah I took off 8 months of school to stay home with her. Becoming a mom changes everything about you and I definately needed that time to adjust. Being a stay at home mom is often much harder than going to work! People that don’t have children sometimes can’t understand this, but it’s so true! When I go to work, I have time to breath, don’t have to worry about my children hurting themselves… actually have adult meaningful conversations with real human adults (going a day or two communicating only with a non-vocal infant or whiny toddler can drive you crazy quickly :) so in a way, I enjoy work…. eventually I would like to work less than I do. Being a nurse I could work only 2-3 days a week, still spend lots of time with family and sort of have the best of both worlds.

Ultimately the decision is between you and Jay and God and I definately think God SMILES upon the fact that you want to stay home with Leland. Next to being Jay’s wife, being a momy to Leland is God’s greatest calling on your life. You’re right when you say these moments are precious and you can’t get them back. Eventually he will going to school (unless you homeschool), becoming more independant you will have more time to do those extra things. But you’re so wise in cherishing these moments.

Also if you going to work/sending him to daycare would barely make the bank break even it’s even a greater reason for you stay home. It’s a blessing that you don’t have to work. Thank God for that! Technically, I don’t have to either but I have a peace about going to work and loving on other people’s babies, and the adult interacation does me good and helps me keep balance in my life. :o) It gets crazy at times, but that’s just life.

I loved hearing your heart. Keep sharing!

Tommy Gausman

Mama, I am thinking that you are cooler then I thought you were,(and I loved you from the first time I met you)
Houses are boxes that people put their junk in,and sometimes look at it and say”Wow! I got more junk then the other guy!I’m doing good..
I’ve been to your house and I saw lots of love and smiles.. I think my son, and grandson,and one of the sweetest ladies I ever met, would be so better off, with you home….. Take good care of my boys.. Love you all (AND AM SOOOO PROUD OF YOU ALL) See you soon……. Tommy…

Jennifer

i totally agree when i got with carson i told him i wanted to work and that he could be the one to stay at home however now since iszick has been here i dont want to go to work i want to raise my child the way i want him to be raised and not have someone else teaching him stuff i dont want him to learn … however i am still in school grr cant wait to be done and hopefully will still be able to stay home with him

arielle

bridget,

thank you so so much for your thoughts and encouragement, it means a lot. its so nice to have others who think the same when the world around you tells you different. i totally agree with you. i think it is awesome that you are able to be with hannah and judah and also help be a mother-figure to those in the hospital. you have to be a strong person to be in that position! what a blessing.

thanks again :)

~arielle

little update.

i know this is mainly a photo-related blog, and i have so many pictures i want to post up here from recent shoots….but i also wanted to post a little something from my day to day life from the past few weeks. the past month or so has gone by so fast, i can’t even believe it! little leland is almost a month old (and still so tiny!) the first week we brought him home was such a blur but now reality has set in a little bit. now i know what people meant when they said “oh..some days you will wonder where the day has gone!” i realize that now when i look at the clock and its 5 o clock and i’m not even ready or dressed for the day!

it has been so sweet, especially seeing jay with leland. he is so good with him and i’m so thankful for such a patient, gentle, and sweet-spirited husband. i know that i’ve had some rough moments the past few weeks, and i have seen how jay is much more patient than i am in many ways!

the other day i was driving by myself and listening to “my great reward“ by shane & shane, just worshipping and i got so overwhelmed with thankfulness. it was one of those moments where you are in your car, with hands raised and singing loudly, hoping no other cars or trucks pass by and wonder what in the world you are doing. :) anyway, i was reflecting on His faithfulness…and then i got to thinking about my little newborn, my somewhat new marriage, and this season of life i’m in. i’m super content and very thankful. yet…  even though being married is great and having a new baby is precious, that is definitely not where my contentment lies. my satisfaction is to be found in Christ, my great reward. and i pray that remains the focus of my life.

here are a few pictures from my phone from the past few weeks:

1. such a sweet, round little face.  2. he absolutely loves his playmat.

3. my handsome husband, i love him.  4. two handsomes.

5. lovely flowers from friends.  6. me…with some sleep deprived bed head

7. i am currently: running on coffee  8. colder weather= time to wear moccasins

9. little sleeper.   10. doing LOTS of laundry!

11. the binky that saves the day!  12. jay made him a turban, poor thing

much love.

  
Chanin

OOO, thanks for this update!! :) What an awesome season of life for you. You guys are just starting out and have so much to look forward to in your future. Much love, Mom

leland jay.

born october 15th, 2010

4:11 pm

7 pounds  20 1/4 in.

little leland,

you are now a week old. daddy and i have already fallen completely in love with you. in fact, we fell in love from the moment you took your first breath in this world. you are precious, and we are so grateful that God has given you to us.

before you were born, i was a little scared on how i would raise a boy in this crazy world…how i would teach you the ways of the Lord, how to obey, and how to stay away from the impurities of this generation. i felt incapable and inadequate of caring for such a small, tiny person. but now, as i see your little face, hear your little coos and squeaks, and as i look at your little smiling face…all of that fear seems to fade away. i have already decided to trust Jesus in raising you. you are a child of God, leland, and He has promised to look after His children. He has promised us peace and joy if we simply rest in Him.

daddy and i want to be an example of love to you, always. we want to show you what it means to truly love Jesus. you might not know what that means for a long time, but we want you to see it every day. we want to teach you and guard your heart so that one day, you too will show others what Jesus’ love looks like and what it means to follow Him.

you are a gift to me, leland, and you are changing the way i see things. you are one of the most blessed things that has happened in my life. but do me one favor, please don’t grow up too quickly. i want to treasure each moment that i have seeing you grow.

i love you.
momma

  
Chanin

You and Jay are such a great inspiration for many including me. I love you guys!!!

Dad

Mimi

Precious Moments –
Reading your heartfelt words to Leland I realize you will never know how much it blesses my heart. But you are finding that the heart of a mother loves unconditionally and purely. – A beautiful letter to my great-grandson, who is blessed to have you and Jay as his parents. God always knows what He is doing better than we can imagine! Enjoy your precious gift, my Precious Moments.

Love,
Mimi

Grant Marshall

HOW SWEET! HE IS VERY CUTE. LOOK AT THOSE LITTLE BOOTIES

Congratulations. And what a wonderful purpose statement to make to your young son from you and your husband.

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autumn.

the Lord is good to all: and his tender mercies are over all his works. ”  psalm 145:9

happy october! looks like fall is finally here. today i was reflecting on God’s goodness and am so thankful for this season. not just autumn, of course (and everything that comes along with it…carmel apples, wonderful colors, pumpkin spice everything…..) :) …but this season of life. too often we are always looking forward to the future or what is to come instead of just enjoying where He has placed us now in our current situations. i am so thankful. sometimes i really just needed to take a moment to pause, be still, and reflect on His goodness and grace in my life. these are beautiful times…

  

This picture takes me back to my childhood. You are an artist!

one year!

One year ago from today, i married my best friend….i can’t believe a year has already passed! i am so grateful for him everyday and am blessed by his example. the Lord teaches me so much through him. this first year has definitely had its little trials & adjustments, but it has been wonderful. i didn’t really see how the term “the first year of marriage is the hardest” plays out…i loved it! i mean, i’m not going to lie and say it hasn’t been hard at times…especially the loneliness part of it all…that’s been hard. weird huh? we didn’t know how it would bring us to a season where we’d be kind of isolated from old friends. just a different season, you know? every day i’m learning and the Lord is shaping me into the person He wants me to be…and i’m thankful that He uses marriage as a way to do so. :)

happy anniversary!

  

Happy anniversary! The two of you make me smile, and I’m glad I was able to be there when you said “I do.” :)

What beauty! The Lord bless your love!
I was visiting your mother’s blog and then I found myself over here and I’ve LOVED my visit!
Your photos are beautiful :)

maternity pictures.

only a month and a half or so until the little one is here! we are so excited : )

children are a gift of the Lord…” psalm 127:3

much love,

  

Hi Arielle,, I am a blogging friend of your moms..
I just wanted to stop by and say Hi,, Your mom speaks very highly of you and is so excited about the new grandbaby..
I know she has been through a lot lately,, you too Im sure.. but she is following God and trusting in him..
Well have a great weekend..
God Bless

Greatings, ,

Ivan

Mimi

Precious Moments-
What a radiant mother-to-be you are! Can’t believe my Precious Moments is going to be a mother – soon! He will be here before you know it and I know he will be so welcomed into the world. I have prayed for him every day and know the Lord has something amazing for his life.

Love,
Mimi

Chanel Paulk

i really love your necklace! do you happen to remember where you got it?